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It's a bit off-putting.” And for Leah, herself an interesting, intelligent young woman, the men on the site seem a little, well, uncool.“In all honesty, there just aren't many attractive men on there. What with more female churchgoers than men, the odds are already stacked against women and sometimes you have no choice but to look outside your immediate pool. Secondly, where else do you meet Christians these days?Humans have been compared to other species in terms of sexual behavior.Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky constructed a reproductive spectrum with opposite poles being tournament species, in which males compete fiercely for reproductive privileges with females, and pair bond arrangements, in which a male and female will bond for life. I suppose I brought this on myself – after all, I met the Public Praying Man (as he shall henceforth be known) on a Christian dating site. Firstly, because my Christian faith is important to me, and I would ideally like to share that with the guy I end up with.
There was also a serious sense of humour failure, as if the men on there were worried that “being a bit funny” is the work of Satan and no self-respecting Christian would dare make a joke. At least Public Praying Man made it to the dating stage – but his penchant for saying grace out loud made me feel, as many of the men's profiles did, that I wasn't Christian enough to go out with a Christian.You start to feel like you're looking at everyone who's left on the shelf.” Muslims using an internet dating site, such as and Muslim Mingle, I’ve heard that the problems can get even more unsettling. AMARATES PLEASE MARRY ME IF ANY OLD LADY OR GIRL WANT YOUNG BOY FOR FULL LIFE WITH 50 YEARS AGRIMENT [sic]” reads one post.As well as the issues of “he's too pious,” or “he's just a bit boring,” there can be far greater worries about whether potential suitors are simply weighing up your worth based on your ability to secure them a visa. The whole experience raises a bigger question: how do you find someone of faith to share your life with when you are in a minority?“I've tried a few of the most popular Muslim dating sites,” says Aisha*, a Sunni Muslim. Sure, there are success stories – we've all known someone who knows someone who found her “soulmate” online.“On one, I got loads of emails from men 15 years younger than me living in Pakistan and India, who just wanted an opportunity to move to the West. They will tell you that if you just want it enough, and you keep trying, and you accept that you have to get through 50 frogs to find the one great catch, and you don't give up hope even on your 70th appallingly bad date…then you'll get there. But as for me, I'm exhausted even thinking about it.
It was all so banal, so pleasant, so utterly devoid of irony or character or anything interesting. Because while my religion is foundational, from then on in, I am still an individual with my own tastes, likes, dislikes and sense of humour.