How to say no online dating
If he demands an explanation, then you can give him one. I suggest a generic one like, "I just don't think we're suited romantically." That's it. You play the game, you take your chances and into each life, many nos will fall. In the "old days," the girls couldn't ask the boys out. He sent an email the next day and said he enjoyed meeting me.If he asked you and you couldn't go, you had to say no and perhaps add, "…but I'd really love to go out another time! He also sent a link to a website he thought I would like (he was right). Then he added, "After thinking about it, I don't see us as being a good match for one another." What did he do wrong?
I was being internally consistent, but SL was playing a different game. He played the "take all contact as a sign of interest" and "if I keep asking, she'll say yes" games. A middle case is that he'll attempt to engage you in a long conversation about why you're turning him down.
My doubt caused me to give him less than a 100% no.
He could tell I was uncertain and he thought the right response to that was to push. A flat out "no" is rude—and if you ever give one, the guy will almost certainly tell you so.
The virtue of those rules, though, was that everyone understood how the game was played. (Don't go rearranging your life to accommodate her though, she clearly won't do the same for you. If you don't want to date him, just be busy when he asks you out. I've said yes many times out of a sense of guilt or obligation or because I could tell how much he liked me. Ok, so how did my two recent non-troubling dates go? A sporadic email correspondence lead up to the date because we were both traveling a lot. Here are the basic guidelines: One last thing, if you're truly getting mixed signals, from both actions and words, what does it mean? Do you really want to pursue someone who isn't sure if they're interested? Time to rely on my favorite dating guideline: do nothing!
If he doesn't get the message and is still in hot pursuit after you've said no three times, then you can have a talk with him and tell him to stop.
from Brooklyn, NY for suggesting this week’s topic: Online dating, once a fringe and stigmatized activity, is now over a $2 billion industry.