Dating codependent people
Codependents habitually find themselves on a “dance floor” attracted to partners who are a perfect counter-match to their uniquely passive, submissive and acquiescent dance style.As natural followers in their relationship dance, codependents are passive and accommodating dance partners. Codependents find narcissistic dance partners deeply appealing.They pretend to enjoy the dance, but really harbor feelings of anger, bitterness, and sadness for not taking an active role in their dance experience.They are convinced that they will never find a dance partner who will love them for who they are, as opposed to what they can do for them.
In these relationships, the codependent individual ignores personal needs and suppresses emotions in favor of the other person in the relationship.
With the heartbreak of unfulfilled dreams, codependents silently and bitterly swallow their unhappiness.
Codependents are essentially stuck in a pattern of giving and sacrificing, without the possibility of ever receiving the same from their partner.
Being too much dependent on someone else they say also roots from extreme depression or from a bad experience.
There are people who does not want to work anymore after their partner in life left them or rather died. At this point of instance, one must not let the person who needs help be. In this way he or she will be able to let go of the stress that s/he is having and from there will start a new life again.
The inherently dysfunctional “codependency dance” requires two opposite but distinctly balanced partners: the pleaser/fixer (codependent) and the taker/controller (narcissist/addict).