Dating a man who has a child
if you're suppost to be ONE with your mate, how the hell can a child come before you??? When kids are in the picture, you have someone else's life to care for.Why do I have to stay home alone on weekends and holidays? and if we all go out together and do something, I'm made to feel like an outsider.. My suggestion, if you want someone soley focused on you (which appears to be 24/7) stay away from men with children. But I was always taught that it was GOD, SPOUSE, CHILD......... Do you think that him not having full custody has anything to do with it?I agree with other's about a) you being selfish and b) you needing to date guy with no children.Any parent will put their child first before anyone else unless you are a dead beat parent.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. When him and I were just dating, things were great..he only saw his son once a month (due to differences with the child's mother) and I felt like there was no "competition".. We started getting his son twice during the week and EVERY weekend.Whay can't you spend this time with the new hubby and the child?This child is going to play a huge role in your relationship..you are smart, and you want this to work, then I suggest you start playing a part in this.
It's a package deal."You will never know nor understand the love a parent has for a child until you have children of your own" I dont agree with that at all. But that is an issue that you have to take up with your partner. The key part is that you have to sit down with him and talk about it. The drive up there would be a PERFECT time to talk! Why does she always have to be thrown to the sidelines? Keeping your children a #1 priority is expected indeed, but this sounds like the boy isn't being taught what a "heathy" adult relationship is either.
yet you have the nerve to come to me with your problems and issues so I can help you fix them? Until you realize that there are many good men out there who have priorities with children i think you should stay away from them. You probably shouldn't date religious men either that put God first. but laying there with someone, looking at them and saying "I love you" and their response being, "oh, I miss Rian.."....... I do agree with you in part when you are being intimate and expressing feelings that he starts talking about his kid. Yea, clearly you need to date childless partners right now.
You clearly need to date guys that don't have any children. But sometimes it's hard for a parent to get the little one off the brain, probably even more so for someone that only gets to see their child a few days out of the month. You will never know nor understand the love a parent has for a child until you have children of your own.
I would react the same way as your boyfriend if my ex had full custody and I only saw my son a few times a month. Yes, I wont deny that these men are good fathers and are following their responsibility.
I applaud your bf for being a good father and showing interest and love for his kid. You need to either find ways to be a family when his child is around you and incorporate activities that help you all feel included, or you need to walk away from the relationship and move onto men without children. You can't understand the love of a parent/child relationship until you have your own A single dad doing everything he can for his child should be praised and respected and supported. The new guy takes off for the weekend leaving her alone? But they are neglecting thier other responsibilities with her.
As a matter of fact, for our one year wedding anniversary I had a trip planned.